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I have a higher sex drive than my wife. How do we get our libidos in sync? | Life and style – Verve Times

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I am 50 and my wife is a few years younger. We have been together for more than a decade and have three wonderful and noisy children. I believe we are in one of the sweetest phases of our relationship: we don’t often fight, we sleep without interruption most nights, we care about each other deeply and we share our feelings. The issue is that our sex drives are unsynchronised. I would like to have sex more often (once a week) and she prefers to wait a couple of weeks (or a month). Lately, she feels our sex moments are a toll she needs to pay to keep me satisfied or happy. And I feel she has sex just for me. We tried some sex toys and it worked well when we used them, but this doesn’t give her a desire to have sex more often. I tried to talk to her, but she refused to continue talking, arguing that I make her feel that sex is an obligation not an optional pleasure inside the marriage. What can I do to gain sex appeal?
It will be important to find a way to discuss this with your wife without her feeling blamed, or that you have marital expectations. Try to truly understand how she feels. She may have physical, psychological or medical reasons for lowered desire, or it may just be that you two – understandably – cannot manage to find enough privacy. Bear in mind that many people are experiencing depression as a result of Covid fears and restrictions, and depression can lower desire. Focusing on children can really affect a couple’s ability to kindle erotic contact, and this has been even more true during the confinement of the past two years. Be creative – individually and in partnership with your wife – in finding strategies for greater relaxation, more private time, and a prioritisation of love-making.
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