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How to Have Pleasurable Safer Sex During COVID-19: 14 Tips – Healthline

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After 12+ months of mumbling “I’m my safest sex partner!” while rubbing one out, you’re probably wondering when you can start having in-person partnered or multi-partnered sex again.
The answer: potentially sooner than you think!
Scroll on to learn more about safer romping in the age of ‘rona.
Before we talk about how to have safer sex during the coronavirus pandemic, we need to talk about what safer sex is.
Typically, safer sex is defined as sex — that’s any meaningful experience of pleasure — that helps reduce the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
Common ways of reducing the risk of STI transmission include:
The reason it’s known as safer (with the r), and not safe sex, is because no transmission inhibitor is 100 percent effective.
External condoms, for example, aren’t foolproof. Some data shows that, when taking human error into consideration, they’re only 85 percent effective.
Even being screened for STIs isn’t 100 percent effective. This isn’t because the tests are inaccurate — they are accurate — but because most doctors don’t screen for all STIs or don’t screen for all STIs in all possible infection locations.
Many doctors, for example, won’t test for the herpes simplex virus unless you’re currently experiencing an outbreak. In fact, the Centers For Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) actually recommends against it.
Similarly, most doctors don’t ask people if they’ve engaged in oral or anal sex, and they may fail to test for oral or anal STIs.
Gone are the days when safer sex spoke only to the risk of STI transmission.
In the midst of a global pandemic centered around a virus that can be spread through a variety of bodily fluids — respiratory droplets, mucus, semen, fecal matter, and blood — the definition of safer sex has expanded.
These days, safer sex is defined as sex where those involved proactively work to reduce the risk of potential STI and COVID-19 transmission.
Here are some additional precautions to take during the pandemic to reduce your risk of COVID-19 transmission:
To be very clear: Although STIs and COVID-19 can both be spread during sex, COVID-19 is not classified as an STI.
This means that, even if you get screened for every single STI, you aren’t also getting screened for COVID-19.
The only way to know if you’ve contracted COVID-19 is to take a COVID-19 test.
Part one of safer sex during the COVID-19 pandemic is understanding how the two types of infections work.
COVID-19 is primarily spread upon contact with respiratory droplets — like sneeze shmutz, cough gook, and spit — from a person with COVID-19 coughing, sneezing, or talking near you.
COVID-19 can also be spread through airborne transmission.
Learn more about how COVID-19 is transmitted by visiting the U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) and CDC websites.
STIs are primarily transmitted through bodily fluids or direct genital skin-to-skin contact.
Learn more about STI transmission below:
Do you know your current STI or COVID-19 status? Find out before boning.
The only way to know your COVID-19 status is to get tested, eliminate as many potential risks for transmission between the test and results, and receive your results.
Throughout the pandemic, recommendations around whether people who aren’t experiencing symptoms should get tested have varied.
To find if you qualify for a test, and where you can get tested:
To learn more about COVID-19 testing, check out the FDA’s Coronavirus Disease Testing Basics or read the below Healthline articles:
Knowing your true STI status means getting tested for all STIs.
“Prior to any sexual encounter, it’s recommended that all partners be screened for HIV, hepatitis B, gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, and herpes,” says Kecia Gaither, MD, a double board certified physician in OB-GYN and maternal fetal medicine and the director of perinatal services at NYC Health + Hospitals/Lincoln.
It also means getting screened in all potential areas at risk of being infected. In other words, get tested for oral or anal STIs if you have oral or anal sex.
If you aren’t sure where to go, check out our roundup of STI testing locations available in each state and online.
Your STI status isn’t the only one you need to know before you have partnered or multi-partnered sex.
You also need to know the status of the people you’re bedding.
To introduce the STI conversation, share your status first, recommends Lisa Finn, a sex educator and sexpert with sex toy boutique Babeland.
“Sharing your status and testing protocols will make other people feel more comfortable sharing their status,” she says.
You might say:
Before agreeing to meet up with someone, Gaither says, “You want to find out when their last negative (or positive) COVID-19 test was, if they’re fully vaccinated, if and when they’re planning to get vaccinated, what their safety protocols are, and if they’ve had any recent exposures.”
Gigi Engle, a certified sex coach and the author of “All The F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life,” notes that you might also ask how many people they’re currently dating.
“This is a very serious virus, and it deserves to be treated with seriousness,” she says.
“It’s not unchill to ask someone to help you assess whether they’re going to give you a potentially life threatening infection.” Fair!
“It may be a red flag if someone follows different COVID-19 protocols than you and refuses to adjust to the precautions you’ve requested in order to feel safe,” Engle says.

“It certainly indicates that this person isn’t being safe with their own health, which puts you at even greater risk.”
Ultimately, if you each aren’t fully vaccinated, having in-person sex in the middle of the pandemic with someone outside your household is risky.
But, according to the NYC Health Department, certain acts are safer than others.
According to the NYC Health Department, the safest sex acts during the pandemic include:
Swapping spit is on the riskier side. Rimming is considered risky, too.
That doesn’t mean you can only do the acts the NYC Health Department approves of.
It just means you should approach other acts with an understanding of the risks.
Over a year into the pandemic, you’re probably a little sick (pun intended) of reading articles that sing the praises of sexting, phone sex, and video banging.
But, as Engle says, “Virtual sex really can be fun and intimate!”
App-controlled sex toys, mood lighting, good WiFi connections, and unlimited messaging can all help.
“We’ll all be vaccinated soon, and life can go back to normal in the near future,” she says. “Right now, [you] need to play it safe, even if you’d prefer to have sex in person.”
It is possible to have in-person (!) partnered and multi-partnered sex in the middle of the pandemic.
It just requires a lot of communication ahead of time about certain things, like COVID-19 protocols, current STI status, boundaries, and more.
Gabrielle Kassel is a New York-based sex and wellness writer and CrossFit Level 1 Trainer. She’s become a morning person, tested over 200 vibrators, and eaten, drunk, and brushed with charcoal — all in the name of journalism. In her free time, she can be found reading self-help books and romance novels, bench-pressing, or pole dancing. Follow her on Instagram.
Last medically reviewed on April 12, 2021



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